Rethinking my position on Same Sex Marriage

I must say that this is the buzzing topic of the same sex relationship world.   Should they be permitted equal status across the board.  Including legal matrimony.  I found myself the recipient of a letter from the Human Rights Campaign today which included a sticker that looks like the follows (just the Equal sign).

I have previously spent alot of time trying to distinguing truth from homophobia and finding my own positions on the gay rights causes.  I must say that I have supported PFLAG, but as I am inclined to a life of Torah, I had found that Same Sex marriage at least as so far as in the Orthodox Jewish Practices did not in any way seem to meet our guidelines for marriage under Jewish law.  

I have considered that if the states pass measures to accept same sex marriage, that I would support the law.   I probably would vote against it I reasoned, but I am only one vote.   Lets see what the majority does.

That said, I found myself with the "=" sticker in the mail today and I did not throw it away.  I am quite a fond person of stickers, and like to decorate my home with them, where they may be applicable.  I found myself walking upstairs with the HRC sticker and found myself peeling the back. It found itself a home in our spare guest room bedroom on the metal closet door.  I told myself, this means you support gay marriage.  I had to think about this.  Surely I do support equal rights in terms of all other aspects of life, military, community, employment etc.   But what about marraige?  I must say that I think that I would support the legal union of a same sex couple in places outside of Jewish Law.  I say this, Jewish law does not consent to validating this type of relationship with Legal Recognition at a Torah level,  But I say that one must recognize the laws of his land.  It would not be a Torah wedding, but I say I am now going to support such a union and wake up to the emotional and community needs of some people in very serious same sex relationships.  That said, I support Torah law in that a man may not lay with a man in the way that he lies with a woman.  I do not believe there is any stipulation for the womens same sex behavior, though certain practices are clearly frowned upon.